I Never Thought I Wanted to Be Just Like Her

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  1. Toni Ryan says:

    Beautiful tribute Sheila! You make your Mom proud!

    Sparkle on my friend!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi Toni! I pray I do! We know what scripture says about honoring our parents 🙂 Thanks for your constant encouragement!

  2. Sheila, this post made me smile. I have heard myself saying the same things. And every now and then my girls will say, “You sound just like grandma!” Ha, ha. But you are so right. It’s okay to be like the people we love and admire, especially when they lived a life that honored God. Thanks for the great post. – Amy
    http://stylingrannymama.com/

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi Amy~
      I’m glad it made you smile. I love the fact that my mom can laugh at herself and march to her own beat. It has made me who I am today. Honor God, Love People and not things because they can’t love you back :-)Thanks for your encouragement!

  3. Nena says:

    This is a beautiful and positive post for all moms out there:)

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi Nena~ I’m sorry for the delay in responding, but wanted to thank you for your encouragement. The older my mom becomes I realize how truly precious she is to my heart. I have taken her for granted at times, but now as I am older I appreciate and value her love and wisdom.

  4. Jazzmine says:

    Thanks for sharing, Sheila. The mother-daughter relationship is one that just gets more precious with time. I love my mom!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi Jazzmine!
      I totally agree and my heart aches for those who do not have a close relationship with their mom. I love my mom too!

  5. Divya says:

    I just recently had the same realization! I catch myself saying things she would say, in the same way, with the same tone.
    I don’t agree with everything she says or does, but I’ll be happy to take on the great things about my mom 🙂

  6. Ola says:

    I Loved this post. The part you said about “traipse(ing) in and out of the house” actually reminded me of my own Mother. Those are her words exactly! I also laughed out loud on the part about the lipstick. Thank you for such a refreshing post!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Ola~ Thank You for your comments. Yes, our moms do leave heartprints within us. She has made me a lipstick fanatic for sure!

  7. Kusum says:

    That is an interesting take and I have never thought the topic that way! I am happy if I am half the woman my mom is. But totally agree, we appreciate our moms more and more as we grow in life, its such a beautiful thing, the bond between moms and daughters.
    xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Kusum,
      I agree the older I get the more I love my mom and I didn’t think it was possible to love her more! Thanks for sharing!

  8. This is absolutely lovely. I think we start understanding our moms a lot better as we grow more. My mom is just like yours when it comes to the lipstick and I find myself walking along her set path without even realising it. Your mother sounds like a lovely person and a complete wonderwoman! Thanks for sharing your lovely thoughts!!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hello!
      Thank You for your sweet reply and you know what? She is WonderWoman! Cape and all! The older I get the more precious she becomes to me. She is beautiful, out-spoken and fiesty! However, she makes it all look good with her lipstick 🙂 The apple hasn’t fallen far from the tree with me. I love my lipstick, but I love her even more.

  9. Dalba says:

    As I read your post, I saw a lot of myself in your words. I like you always said I would not be like my mother. My mother had her flaws (who doesn’t) but she also so had other great things. Like her humor, I learned to laugh from my mom. As I got older and now have children I have taken the good things she had and have made them part of my parenting style. And the bad? I’ve forgiven and moved on. Great post!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Dalba,
      You are right we all have flaws and trust me I have many, but you gave me another insight to my mom. She never talks about my flaws. All she ever talks about is all the positive things I do. She keeps no record of my wrong doings that is an amazing thing. She never throws up anything in my face from the past to make me feel guilty or ashamed. She is the funniest woman I know. I’m blessed to be her daughter and like you said..the things I didn’t appreciate I have moved on too! Thanks for sharing!

  10. Shevy says:

    I also didn’t like lipstick in my younger age but my mom used to always wear them. I was a lipgloss queen lol. The script have flipped today though. I wear lipstick almost every day. Without even trying hard I turned out just like my mom. I love her to the moon and back though we had our quarrels in my early teenage days. We have since grown to understand each other and now we have so much respect for each other now we are like best friends. However it is good that your mom did what she did to break that cycle of abuse.

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Shevy,
      It is funny the things we pick up from our moms that we never thought we would. I am blessed that my mom has always encouraged me in anything I have wanted to do or be. She has always loved me unconditionally when I have messed up and is my biggest cheerleader. She had a horrendous childhood, but she never quit believing she could make a difference. She is loved beyond words by many and still as feisty as ever!

  11. Meagan says:

    This post made me smile, especially when you say that your mom made an effort to break the cycle of abuse in order to be better for you. That’s what I am currently doing, and although I do not ever want to be like my mom, I hope I am the kind of mom where my daughters want to be a little like me when they are older.

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Meagan,
      She truly is my hero. The life she had handed to her was not easy. She has done the best with what she had, but I am so grateful for her willingness to want to do better for my brother and me. Her life is truly an example of a person being handed lemons, and she made the sweetest lemonade she could. Trust me, because you are breaking a cycle you are helping your family and future generations. It will be a lasting legacy.

  12. Marisa says:

    Aww such a beautiful post! I can see the love, its so funny how we see things different as we get older!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Marisa,
      It is true! With age does come wisdom and our perspective truly changes about many things. I used to think life was best in my twenties, but now I realize the world doesn’t get better, I just became wiser with age and can appreciate life more. My mom is a gift I truly treasure and not near as annoying as I thought at times. 🙂

  13. Ahh! I love this post! My siblings used to tell me, “You’re just like mom,” as an insult. Today, I love when I hear that I’m “just like mom!”

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Patricia,
      I love it too! I can’t think of anyone else I would rather be. She truly has made me the woman I am today whether I believe it or not 🙂

  14. Lakisha says:

    Omg I love this post. Growing up I always said I didn’t want to be like my mother too and slowly over time, I’m turned into a mini version of her. It’s crazy because I’ve tried to be the complete opposite but now I just embrace it!!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi, Lakisha!
      I’m glad you enjoyed it. I too have embraced it and wouldn’t change it for anything. I dread the day God calls her home. She truly is my heartbeat in so many ways. She is the most hilarious woman I know!

  15. Kayvona says:

    I love this so much! I’m a mother now but I knew I was just like my mom way before I had kids. I think being like my mom is like a blessing and a curse haha!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi, Kayvona! Motherhood is the best! What is more fun is watching our children become like us! You are right about being like our mom is a blessing and a curse. There are some days it is both!

  16. Dawn says:

    YES! I’m not a mom yet but I now know why my mom said certain things to me. It makes so much sense now!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi, Dawn!
      The older you get the more everything makes sense! It is true with age comes wisdom. Life lessons can be hard, but also rewarding!

  17. candy says:

    I was in my late 20’s before I realized I was my mother. Really didn’t bother me at all. My three sisters and 4 brothers all say I am most like our mom. That is a good thing.

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi, Candy!
      I agree! There are a lot of other people I could be like, but none better than my mom 🙂 I will gladly take the compliment from people when they say I am like her.

  18. Margaret says:

    You make the sparkle! Thanks

  19. This is such a beautiful post! I used to struggle with the same thing. Turns out, she is the best role model there over was!

    • Sheila Rhodes says:

      Hi, Taylor~
      I agree!Some of us are blessed with incredible mom’s who by their own nature just exude the qualities of a great woman!

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